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I have been reading with interest about energy vampires, what led me to it was re evaluating my friendships! As I am ever evolving and discovering new things about myself, I noticed friends slowly turning into them. Because I had been through a lot of crap and therapy, I liked for a while to try and 'help' people but I seemed to have took on a role of a free therapist or something. I have been concentrating on trying to break this cycle and concentrate on becoming more selfish as I got so dragged in to peoples bullshit I kept accidently putting my own life on hold.

Now I am feeling drained around some of my friends as I become more and more confident and stronger, they seem to get clingier and think they can criticise me (not constructivly) I felt a bit harsh in trying to back off but its is getting me feeling like i think others problems really are there own and i dont care anymore! Is this too selfish or just looking after number one! I have started to be quite assertive and tell them I wont be talked to in certain ways and have stopped pussyfooting around their fragile little egos. I think I need to work on my ego too and stop being so giving ! Any advice would be helpful. What do satanists think about friendship? I believe that it should be a mutual friendship and be interesting and engaging not wearing yourself thin trying to be caring and sensitive. I guess people are just boring the shit out of me too with negativity and whining.
Sorry that was a bit of a whinge from myself !

Hi Claire

I totally agree with what your saying.

These people have a habit of dumping there mundane problems on you, without giving a second thought to any problems you may well have.

They are nothing more than psychic vampires.

As Satanists we want to live life to the full and get everything we want, create and take opportunities, etc...

It's not possible when others drain your very soul with the crap they heap upon you.

I have a simple solution that works for me. Those people that cause me stress get removed from my life, period.

I can't be arsed with them. Way too busy with my own life.

Just my opinion

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I am surprised there aren’t more replies on such a great topic. I have a funny little story to start with though. I have a facebook, as most of us do, and most of my friends or people that want to be my friend have hundreds of friends! I have 17 friends on facebook for a reason, they are TRUE friends and people that I talk to and interact frequently with. They cause me no stress and don’t complain about their lives to me, but will ask for my opinion on situations and problems they have but that is as far as it goes. I think if someone is causing you unwanted stress or bugs the living shit out of you they should be kicked to the damn curb regardless how long you have known them (only if it is ongoing, not the one time I need someone thing). I kicked EVERYONE that causes me stress to the curb, I do not speak to them, I block their number, email, facebook profile, and any other means they have to contact me. I have no bullshit in my life for a reason...it’s my life and no one but me can control it.

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For me my friendships need to have a return. Much like my beliefs and values I regularly review what benefits I have by holding current friendships. I appreciate my friends that bring inspiration, support, or contribute to my general wellbeing in other ways, those that are worth my time and enrich my experience of life on this rock. Often however I need to clear the rabble and cut ties with those that run a deficit on my emotional, intellectual bank account.

A Satanic principle in this area for me is that if I let these leeches and parasites continue to hang on I am insulting the friends that are worth their salt. It is simple for me to assess. Friends that I consider to be my equal, I keep. Friends that I am not sure about, can leave. As has been mentioned already, I would rather have a few quality friendships that I value, rather than hordes of people around me and no one to turn to.

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This is definitely a great post. We all have people in our lives that thrive on negativity. Its your decision to call these people friends or acquaintances. My friends know me. They know I stand for what I believe and if they want advice then they are prepared for a very blunt and real statement. The others who are psychic vampires so to speak find out real quick to tread lightly on my Earth because I have clear rules. No crying or whining and feeling sorry for yourself because that's pathetic and I have no room for patheticness in my life. It is true that you become like the company you keep. To even permit a person with negativity to continue to drain your energy is to participate on their own pathetic nature. Can people change? Absolutely, its all about evolution. The question, therefore, is are they willing? We must set the standard of excellence and exampleship. Living positively for yourself without allowing negative energy or forces to control your emotions and disposition is key to self preservation and survival. You should never walk into a room, you should enter it with confidence, security, and self respect. Psychic vampires should fear your presence and not feed off of it. Its my belief that you are only vulnerable to this behavior if you allow it. Just a little food for thought.

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I very recently helped a friend remove a psychic vampire's hold on her. Now that she does not have to deal with someone draining her life force every day, she has really been able to deal with her own issues and has become so full of life.

It is amazing what can happen in a short period of a couple of months when a person is suddenly free to grow and be happy!

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Some people negativity kills them at time .....

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"Some people negativity kills them at time ....."

Yep, I hate negative people too.

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I agree about cutting the cord on any energy sucking friend. I did that with a "friend" who had been through a similar life change. Although our situations were slightly different (her wife cheated on and left her whereas my fiance broke up with me and refused to let me see my two step-children) we seemed to bond over them. This worked at first. We were both sad and wanted someone around that could understand somewhat. She clung onto her negativity longer than I did and when I was ready to pick myself up, she tried dragging me back down. I got into a new relationship that she disapproved of and made MY relationship about HER. Because SHE was cheated on, MY relationship with two people (triad) stressed HER out. I had spent a week away from her (busy schedules) and it was like a huge weight had come off my chest. It also gave me time to reflect about how I act and feel when she was around. I called her up and basically told her that I don't need/want/desire any negativity in my life and if she could respect that, we would still be able to remain friends. She decided that she wasn't over being miserable and I haven't spoken to her since last summer.
Being away from that negativity has given me the time to reflect, plan and tweak the kind of person I want to be and the kind of life I want for myself. After all, I'm the one that lives MY life!